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God’s Secret Ingredient

Play now #325, God’s Secret Ingredient, Pastor David McIntosh, Sunday 08-24-2008

Text: Romans 1:4-6

 

 

INTRODUCTION

 

  1. In the story “A Cranberry Thanksgiving” grandma makes the greatest cranberry bread in the land and a city slicker is trying to steal her secret ingredient for this cranberry bread.
  2. Grandma uses something that is so powerful everyone wants her cranberry bread!
  3. Well, in a day when many are seeking answers to life we Christians should be demonstrating the power of Jesus Christ in our personal lives to attract others to Him.
  4. Instead, multitudes of believers seem powerless against the same forces that destroy the world.
  5. Marriages are falling apart, raising children that respect others, anger, bitterness, addictions to sex and pornography are reigning in the land whether you claim to be Christian or not.
  6. What is the missing ingredient that will propel us to be genuine overcomes of the sins that destroy in this world? That our light would shine with words & works!

 

 

EXAMPLE (Psalm 106:9-16)

 

  1. Read verses 9:11 – “He rebuked the Red Sea also, and it dried up; So He led them through the depths, As through the wilderness. He saved them from the hand of him who hated them, And redeemed them from the hand of the enemy. The waters covered their enemies; There was not one of them left:
  2. V.12-16 on the PowerPoint:
    1. They believed his words & sang his praise (look what God did for me!)
    2. They forgot his works…causing them to not wait for His counsel
    3. This led to lusting after and testing God
    4. God’s consequence is He gives them what they want (but leanness to the soul)
    5. They then envy God’s leaders (Moses & Aaron)
  3. Now look at this pattern, God does something they don’t deserve, limited belief and praise, they soon forget, turn from God’s ideas, this leads to lust, consequences and envy.
  4. This is a picture of what happens over and over again to believers today.
  5. Listen to what James 4:1-4 says; “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasure. You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God?”
  6. Wow, that’s tough, that hurts! What is that secret ingredient that can change everything?
  7. How do we live everyday in the ways of our faith? How do break out of this cycle that we see in the O.T. people of God and the N.T. church of believers?

 

 

THE SECRET INGREDIENT

 

  1. Romans 1:4-6 – “And who through the Spirit of holiness was declared with power to be the Son of God by his resurrection from the dead: Jesus Christ our Lord. Through him and for his name sake, we received grace and apostleship to call people from among the Gentiles to the obedience that comes from faith.”
  2. We received GRACE to call people to obedience that comes from faith!
  3. The missing ingredient is GRACE. It’s not that we haven’t heard of grace but rather we have misunderstood it.
  4. To many believers today, being under grace means that they are not under any obligation to fulfill the righteousness of the Law of God but are under a covering of God that allows them to do whatever they think is right and God will approve…this is grace.
  5. We need to receive a fresh biblical understanding of God’s grace for our lives!

 

 

GOD’S GRACE FROM GOD’S WORD

 

  1. In Romans 1:5 we saw that we received grace to call people to obedience.
  2. Look at Romans 5:21 – “So that, just as sin reigned in death, so also grace might reign through righteousness to bring eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”
  3. We see that grace rules through righteousness it is not a ticket for unrighteousness.
  4. Romans 6:14 – “For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace.”
  5. So one of the main purposes for grace is to help us work out God’s righteousness in our everyday lives.
  6. This can only be done through the power of God not the efforts of man.
  7. Listen to Ephesians 3:7 – “I became a servant of this gospel by the gift of God’s grace given me through the working of his power.”
  8. You see, grace is more than God’s loving favor; it is God’s gift of power to do His will in our lives!
  9. 2 Peter 1:2-4 – “Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord, as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises, that through these you may be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.”
  10. Peter is speaking of multiplied grace as divine power by which we have given great & precious promises that we can partake of the divine nature and not the corruption of lust!
  11. From God’s Word we see that grace is a gift of divine power that God freely gives us so that we can obey Him, live in righteousness, overcome sin and partake in His divine nature!

 

 

GOD’S GRACE OUR TEACHER

 

  1. If anyone is going to truly partake of God’s grace you have to have one thing…a teachable spirit.
  2. Titus 2:11,12 – “For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age.”
  3. We learn here that grace is our teacher and we are her students. Grace teaching us (through divine power) to say no to ungodliness & worldly lusts. Grace is not going to just cover over these things, grace teaches us to say no to our way and yes to God’s way!
  4. Are you teachable?
  5. See the law demands, but gives no strength to obey it, grace promises and gives power to perform for us. The Law points its finger, grace opens its arms.
  6. But are we willing to see and be students in the school of biblical grace?

 

 

WHERE TO BEGIN

 

  1. Well we know that grace is a gift so you can’t earn it. But there is a qualification that God is looking for.
  2. James 4:6 – “God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
  3. So we see that God considers the opposite of grace is pride.
  4. Pride is doing it on my own, pride is reserving the right to make final decisions, pride resists grace!
  5. Humility is the key to this incredible gift, daily humility may I add.
  6. So here is the first step, completely accept and confess our personal failure and inability to live life in a way that pleases God.
  7. With this, we realize our helplessness to do anything good that God accepts, and unless God’s grace moves in my life I really can’t do anything, I am helpless and all the gifts and talents and experience I have won’t do me any good, save for the grace of God.
  8. In 2 Corinthians Paul said, “For when I am weak then I am strong,” this is what he was talking about.
  9. Humility is realizing that I need God’s help for every decision in my life.

 

 

ALTAR CALL

 

  • I would like to open the altars and invite anyone who knows they need the grace of God (the favor, power and desire) to fill their lives like never before that they would become partakers of the divine nature and escaping the corruption that is in the world through lust.
  • Grace to say no to this world and yes to righteousness living!
  • Grace to obey, grace to grow in faith, grace for self control, grace to overcome!

 

How to Get the Most Out of a Message

Play now #324, How to Get the Most Out of a Message, Pastor Mark Boucher, Sunday, 08-17-2008

Text: James 1:19-25

When Temptation Knocks

Play now #323, When Temptation Knocks, Pastor Mark Boucher, Sunday 08-10-2008

Text: James 1:13-18

Joy in Trials

Play now #322, Joy in Trials, Pastor Mark Boucher, Sunday 08-03-2008

Text: James 1:1-12

The Last Tomorrow

Play now #321, The Last Tomorrow, Pastor David McIntosh, Sunday, 07-27-2008

Text: Matthew 24:42-44

INTRODUCTION

  1. A father looked out the window and began to frantically call out instructions to his family. Quick, shut off the TV’s, dust off the family bible, put these magazines away.
  2. The cause was that he saw his pastor had pulled up and this was a surprise visit!
  3. If the condition of our homes when an unexpected visitor arrives can cause such embarrassment, how much more concerned should we be about the condition of our lives in light of Jesus’ return?
  4. The disciples asked Jesus an incredible question once, “what will be the sign of your coming and of the end of the age?” (Jesus is coming again-foundational truth-hope)
  5. Jesus responded by saying, “Watch out that no one deceives you. For many will come in my name, claiming I am the Christ, and will deceive many. You will hear of wars and rumors of wars…There will be famines and earthquakes…All these are the beginning of birth pains.” (Matthew 24:4-8)
  6. Let me give you some signs and you give me what they mean:
    1. First robin on your front yard
    2. Changing of the leaves
    3. When leaves turn their back in the wind
    4. When sheep gather in a huddle, tomorrow we will have a puddle.
  7. Jesus gave us four signs to look for:
    1. Come in my name: since 1799- 20 people have claimed to be the incarnate Jesus Christ. (hold up 1992 USA Today)
    2. Wars: estimated: more than 14,000 wars with approx. 3.6 billion killed
    3. Famines: 2 worst famines ever recorded took place in China & India from 1876-1879 claiming 12-17 million lives (26,000 children a day die for lack of food)
    4. Earthquakes: 1556 China killed 830,000, 2004 in the Indian Ocean 300,000.

Transition: How does Jesus’ return personally affect my life?

Quote: “Live as if Christ died yesterday, rose this morning, and is coming back again tomorrow.” -Martin Luther-

PERSONAL POSITION

  1. You are in one of three categories: Disciple/Doubtful/Deceived
  2. Disciple = the picture of a disciple is found in Acts 2, where Scripture declares that 3,000 people repented of their sins and believed on the Lord Jesus Christ for their salvation. V.42 goes on to describe what they did next, “They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.”
  3. Doubtful = this is a person who has made a confession with their mouth but lives in doubt with their relationship to the Lord. This is because they have embraced the idea of Jesus but the practices of their life have not changed.
  4. 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10 – “Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.”
  5. If you have prayed a prayer but still embrace any of these (willfully practice them) you are in danger! Because Jesus is coming again.
  6. Deceived = this is a person who thinks they are going to enter into heaven but they are in for a big surprise.
  7. Matthew 7:21-23 – “Not everyone who says to me, Lord, Lord, will enter the kingdom of heaven…Many will say to me on that day, Lord, Lord…Then I will tell them plainly, I never knew you. Away from me you evildoers!”
  8. According to Jesus many people live deceived, their hearts have grown hard, their motives are selfish and even though they display a religious performance, they don’t know Jesus and the sobering thing is that they think they do!
  9. Only one of these categories is safe. Are you a disciple, doubtful, deceived?
  10. Matthew 24:44 – “So you also must be ready, because the Son of Man will come at an hour when you do not expect him.”

POSITION OF THOSE UNDER YOUR CARE

  1. The father of an 18 yr. old son was frustrated with his son. He had invested much time and effort in training his son to live a Godly life, and now his son was turning toward the world and influencing his brothers & sisters to do the same.
  2. In talking with the son he revealed that his dad did indeed invest much in his life; however the father neglected to talk to his son about salvation and his need to repent and place his trust in Jesus Christ.
  3. He took for granted the fact that his children would accept Jesus as their Savior.
  4. We must prepare for Jesus’ return by faithfully sharing the Gospel with our children until each one repents and is saved!

PERSPECTIVE OF TIME

  1. 1 Peter 4:7 – “The end of all things is near. Therefore be clear minded and self-controlled…”
  2. Romans 14:12 – “So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God.”
  3. Ephesians 5:15, 16 – “Be very careful, then, how you live-not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.”
  4. 2 Corinthians 5:10 - “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.”
  5. “Hours of boredom or useless amusement reveal that we have no concept of God’s cut-off date with history, when we must give an account of every minute.”
  6. “The hour of Christ’s return will remain a mystery, but our readiness for it should be an ever present fact.”
  7. Revelation 22:12 – “Behold, I am coming soon! My reward is with me, and I will give to everyone according to what he has done.”

CLOSING

  1. In the beginning God created the heavens & the earth (world changing catastrophic event)
  2. Worldwide flood in Noah’s day (world changing catastrophic event)
  3. The birth of Jesus Christ
  4. The death of Jesus Christ
  5. The resurrection of Jesus Christ
  6. The next world changing catastrophic event is the return of Jesus Christ!
  7. Are you personally ready; are those under your care ready, are you redeeming the time?
  8. ALTAR CALL
    1. Repent
    2. Confess wrong life practices
    3. Hard heart
    4. Young people/children – to repent and place your full trust in Jesus Christ
    5. Redeem whatever time you have left to being the greatest disciple of Jesus Christ you can.

How Can I Pray?

Play now #320, How Can I Pray?, Pastor Mark Boucher, Sunday, 07-20-2008

Text: Matthew 6:5-15

Hope for Tomorrow

Play now #319, Hope for Tomorrow, Pastor Mark Boucher, Sunday 07-13-2008

Text: Psalm 112:1-10
Theme: YOU CAN LOOK FORWARD TO TOMORROW.

INTRODUCTION:

  1. How we look forward to the future is critical.
  2. In my devotions I read Psalm 112:7-8 “He will have no fear of bad news; his heart is steadfast, trusting in the LORD. His heart is secure, he will have no fear; in the end he will look in triumph on his foes.”
  3. Americans struggle today with hope for tomorrow.
  4. I want to encourage you from the Word to move from any fear to hope for the future.

How can we anticipate good for the future?

It’s not just positive thinking but positive (godly) living.

How do we build a life that is lasting and blessed?

  1. Invest in the foundation (establish a solid past)
    • Invest your life in relationship with the Lord. (v 1)
    • Praise the Lord.
    • Fear the Lord.
    • Delight in His commands.
    • Invest your life in the foundation of family. (v 2)
    • “His children will be mighty in the land.” (v 2)
    • Invest the ways of God into your children and they will bless your heart.
    • Invest in your relationship with others. (v 4)
    • “The gracious, and compassionate and righteous man.” (v 4b)
  2. Build with quality (a faithful present)
    • Every day you’re building a life you live with tomorrow. Our future blessings are tied to present actions.
    • Build with quality in your adversity. (v 4)
    • There’s always light coming if you believe. (v 4)
    • Let your trials humble you to seek God.
    • Build with quality in your prosperity. (v 3)
    • God allows us to have wealth and riches. (v 3a)
    • “Whatever we have the pleasure of, He must have the praise of.” ~Matthew Henry
    • God wants us to share what comes our way.
    • “God will come to him who is generous and lends freely.” (v 5)
  3. Enjoy your future (a hope-filled future)
    • If you establish a foundation … and build with quality.
    • Your future hope is greater than any circumstance.
    • “Good will come to you” (v 5)
    • “He will never be shaken” (v 6)
    • “He will have no fear of bad news” (v 7)
    • You can look ahead to tomorrow.
    • Tomorrow may not be better nationally, economically or even physically … but you are God’s child.
    • As believers, we live by promises, not explanations.
    • God will be there in tomorrow.
    • You can look ahead to eternity.
    • In the age ahead there will be no yesterday, today and tomorrow.
    • We are promised God’s presence for the ages of eternity.

CONCLUSION:

Example: story of Gloria Gaither’s song Because He lives (“Don’t forget the empty tomb”)

Choosing the High Road

Play now #318, Choosing the High Road, Pastor Mark Boucher, Sunday 07-06-2008

Text: Isaiah 55:6-9 “Take the High Road”

INTRODUCTION:

  1. Friday night, as a family we traveled to Boston.
    1. We stood on the east side of the Charles River.
    2. I imagined the British occupation of Boston in 1775 and pictured Washington and the Continentals in Cambridge.
  2. Then I realized, America is still at war …
    1. This is not a war for national independence, or against terrorists.
    2. This great struggle is the war for the mind and soul of America.
  3. Isaiah the prophet presented God’s people with truth.
    1. Isaiah witnessed the decline and fall of Israel.
    2. Isaiah saw the thunderclouds coming toward Judah.
    3. *God led the prophets to warn and offer hope.
  4. I can’t change America, but I can change myself.
    1. Our change can be a powerful weapon in the hands of God.
    2. *Even the most introverted person influences about 10.000 people in his lifetime.
    3. Change is an inside job … starts with our mind, thoughts.
    4. Forces in America encourage people to ignore God.
    5. You can preoccupy yourself with a host of activities and media saturation and hardly even think of God.
    6. The lack of God always pulls us lower in morals, decency.

QUESTION:
What will it take for us to change from lower to higher … from our thoughts to God’s thoughts?

ANSWER:
We must choose the right road. We must exercise our faith in what God says. How?

  1. Believe what God says about Himself.
    1. Do you believe that God is wise enough to reveal Himself?
    2. God proclaims, “I am available” (v.6)
    3. He is high and holy, but has invited us to come up.
    4. “He can be found” (v.6)
    5. Some hold on to thought like: “you can never really know if there is a God.”
    6. Some say, “God has hidden Himself in the universe.” Nature.
    7. He is near.
    8. “Call on Him while He is near.” (v.6b)
    9. “He is not far from each one of us.” (Acts 17:27)
    10. God proclaims, “I am merciful.” (v.7b)
    11. He desires to freely pardon (v.7b) (Hebrew “multiply pardon”)
    12. He revealed His mercy in His Son sent from heaven.
    13. “But he was periced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed.” Isaiah 53:5
    14. *Some people say they believe in God’s availability and mercy, but it makes little difference in how they think and live. They live down low.
  2. We must believe what God says about ourselves.
    1. God says we must seek Him. (v.6)
    2. As Americans we are searching for spiritual experience.
    3. Seeking God pushes us outside our self-centered, self-deceived thoughts. (I can do it alone.)
    4. God says we must be willing to turn, change. (v.7)
    5. This is true for the non-believer.
    6. *I had to be willing to turn to God and forsake sin.
    7. This is true for the believer. (The message of Isaiah was first to God’s people.)
  3. God says, choose the high road. (vv.8-9)
    1. God wants our life filled with beauty, awe.
    2. Being filled with the thoughts of the world only bring you down.

Our culture affects us more than we realize.

Cultural thoughts

God’s thoughts

  • I am a consumer
  • I am a child of God (1 John 3:1)
  • It’s my life
  • I am bought with a price (1 Cor. 6:20)
  • People are nothing special
  • People are made in God’s image (Gen. 1:27)
  • It’s just sex
  • My body is God’s temple (1 Cor. 6:19)
  • I will get revenge
  • Revenge belongs to God (Rom 12:19)
  • It doesn’t matter what you believe
  • “Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved.” (Acts 16:31)
  • There’s no real truth
  • “Your Word is truth” (John 17:17) “I am the way, the truth and the life.” (John 14:6)

 

Why does God want us to take the high road?

“You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.” (Isaiah 26:3)
Choose the high road …

Make Disciples

Play now #317, Make Disciples, Pastor David McIntosh, Sunday 06-29-2008

Text: Matthew 28: 18-20

INTRODUCTION:

  • I sat in this chair some weeks ago and told you we were going to take the next four weeks and talk about us, who we are, who we are becoming and where we are going.
  • We began by letting the words of Jesus speak into our lives, first He told us to Honor our parents, (Donna Goss gave a great testimony of how honoring her mother lead to her mother receiving Jesus as Lord and Savior).
  • Next, Jesus told us to despise not the little ones, and men were huddled down at this altar and encouraged to write, call and take out on a date their sons and daughters.
  • Last week Jesus told us to honor marriage and we saw not only did God create marriage, have in interest in marriage, but also he laid out a perfect design for every marriage to understand and follow.
  • Today we are again going to hear words that Jesus spoke. These words give common purpose to every Christian home. But instead of beginning with Jesus’ words we are going to end with them.

QUOTE:

“The common response to the spiritual development of children, then, is for parents to seek the best help they can find and then get out of the way.” -George Barna-

TRANSITION:

I would like to ask you to take these next few minutes and come on a journey with me. In order to benefit from the journey you will have to take all your pre conceived notions about family life and any conclusions you have already made about family life and Christianity and lay them aside.

  1. In this journey we will simply allow the bible to speak to us all by itself, about what should be happening inside a Christian home.
  2. I have some helpers this morning that will be assisting us on our journey.
  3. The journey will have four stops and each stop gives incredibly specific instructions for our lives. So specific you may get uncomfortable, but let me assure you the word of God wants you and your home to be prosperous and successful!

DEUTERONOMY 6:6-9

  1. 1st responsibility is to place God’s words in our hearts. (impress them inside yourself)
  2. Teach with diligence these words to your children.
  3. TALK ABOUT THEM (sit at home, go about your day, evening & morning)
  4. Keep them before your eyes by having the visibly on display in your house. (example)

PSALM 78:5-7

  1. Father’s are commanded to declare to their children God’s law (God’s ways)
  2. Specific purpose: Next generation would be spiritually prepared (3 generations-parents, children, grandchildren)
  3. The need for the next generation:
  4. Hope in God (growing faith in God)
  5. Not Forget His works (healthy fear of the Lord)
  6. Obey His commands (living relationship with Jesus Christ)

PROVERBS 6:20-23

  1. Specific responsibilities; first for the parents
  2. Father’s commands & mother’s teachings (mom & dad are command here by the word of God to have a plan for their children)
  3. If I asked your children, what does your dad stand for? What is your mom teaching you? What would our children respond?
  4. Second, responsibility of the children (impress them on your heart and around your neck)
  5. They will lead you, keep you and speak to you as you go on in life.
  6. See how important it is to have commands & laws that we instill in our children!
  7. They work together like a lamp & light to guide in an ever growing dark world. (show oil lamp picture)

MATTHEW 28:18-20

  1. Now we get to the words of Jesus. Because He posses all authority we are told to do something.
  2. Make disciples (of all nations): Disciple = disciplined learner
  3. TEACHING THEM (know God)
  4. TO OBEY (see it modeled, understand what it means to them, have questions answered, see benefits and consequences)
  5. EVERYTHING
  6. I COMMANDED YOU
  7. Our homes should be Learning Centers; where everyone is leaning to obey everything Jesus commanded.
  8. The great commission is simply an extension of what should be happening in our homes as Christians.
  9. If we are purposing to follow God’s ways for our homes then when we get to the Great Commission to go and teach people to obey Jesus, we & are children will be experts!

QUOTE:

“After all, God never told His followers to take over the world through force or intelligence. He simply told us to have children and then raise them to honor God in all they do. Therefore, you might logically conclude that bearing and raising children is not only our most enduring legacy but also one of our greatest personal responsibilities.” -George Barna-

CLOSING

  • According to the Word of God, parents have a simple but deeply profound responsibility to evangelize & disciple their children.
  • The local church should be and intimate and valuable partner.
  • Israel cried for deliverance from the bondage of Egypt, God sent a Moses, but he was a baby.
  • When Israel needed a judge to replace a corrupt leader named Eli, God sent Samuel, but he was a young boy.
  • When the whole world needed a Savior, God sent Jesus, but he was a child.
  • I was a young Christian, but hungry, and growing in the Word and ways of God. I was about to be put into a position of leadership in a church and I wondered what God was looking for. I came upon a Scripture that changed the focus of my life, because I was focusing all my attention on church & ministry, but just as I was about to be put into a position of leadership I read God’s perspective on it:
  • 1 Timothy 3:4, 5 – “He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)
  • I began to understand that perhaps God’s church is struggling because we have not focused on our families.
  • God determines potential leaders by what is happening at home. Do we?

ALTAR

  • Invite up all young people 18 and under. Here is a generation that needs to be disciple… that begins at home.
  • Who will teach them, who will model it for them, who will answer their questions, bring them understanding, who will love them with the love of the Lord.
  • Who will join these young people and say I want to turn my home into a discipleship center for the Lord, no matter who lives there!

Honor Marriage

Play now #316, Honor Marriage, Pastor David McIntosh, Sunday 06-22-2008

Text: Matthew 19:4-6

INTRODUCTION

  • We are focusing our attention this month on the Christian home.
  • We first looked at honoring our parents, last week turning our hearts to children and today we are going to look at marriage.
  • Remember, 19 out of 20 families have no type of worship experience together outside of church.
  • The foundational relationship for all of mankind, not just the spiritual health of the family, is the husband, wife relationship.

TRANSITION:

Jesus said, “Haven’t you read…that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” -Matthew 19: 4-6-

“THE TWO WILL BECOME ONE FLESH. SO THEY ARE NO LONGER TWO BUT ONE.” -Jesus Christ- (describes the covenant between the three)

  • “In marriage each one willingly offers all he has to the other.”
  • “Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.” -Malachi 2:15-16-

HONOR MARRIAGE

Invite Tatiana to come and we will share together for the next few minutes.

Before we begin, let me say that what we are going to share next is what we have learned and are learning even today about how the Word of God applies to marriages and is the source of a dynamic marriage for the lord.

EXPOSING THE ENEMY OF MARRIAGE

  1. Because God created marriage between a man and a woman and loves marriage, the enemy hates marriage.
  2. Marriage is the picture of Jesus and the Church (the enemy hates both) and marriage is the plan God created & designed for godly offspring (the enemy hates godly offspring as well).
  3. So, the enemy will take God’s design for marriage and make-up a counterfeit and sell it to couples so they choose it over God’s design.
  4. God’s design is shared in 1 Corinthians 11:3 – “Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
  5. God speaks to us, protects us, teaches us and leads us from inside of His Perfect Design.
  6. The enemy’s desire is for husbands and wives to work outside of this design.
  7. This picture describes our RESPONSIBILITY to God. (show 1 Cor. 11:3)
  8. This picture describes our RELATIONSHIP to God (Galatians 3: 28-29; 1 Peter 3:7)
    1. Gal. 3:28,29 – “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.” (value of our God designed role)
    2. 1 Peter 3:7 – “Husbands, dwell with them (wives) according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life.”
  9. This is a test of our virtue (responsibility); this is picture of our value (relationship).
  10. The roles of male, female, husband & wife are still our responsibility; but through the finished work of Jesus Christ all people are of equal value, have equal access to Jesus, can achieve great things for the Lord and have the potential to store up treasure in heaven equally! To that I say Amen!

THE CHALLENGE

It was challenge to me not to mix these two up in my mind. God says to renew our minds. Ladies/wives we need to understand our responsibilities and challenges that God had given us in His design.

  1. Respect Him: Ephesians 5:33b – “and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
    1. One way to respect your husband is to ask him your spiritual questions.
    2. Realize that God will use him (saved or unsaved) to give you guidance. (1 Cor. 14:35)
  2. Accept Him: Confidence that God is working through him (Romans 8:28)
  3. Be Grateful for Him: (1 Thess. 5:18- “In everything give thanks for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.”) HERE’S HOW
    1. Giving expectations to God and taking them off your husband.
    2. Learning contentment with Godliness (Col. 3:1) growing character
  4. Influence Him: Gain influence by not rehearsing past failures but by demonstrating present faithfulness in these areas:
    1. Genuine love; loyalty; servant’s heart; asking forgiveness
    2. Work on goals together with your husband
    3. Influence him by LIVING IN THE NOW LADIES!! LOVE IN THE NOW!!

HUSBANDS: We to need to understand our challenge in the responsibility that is given to us in God’s design.

  1. Husbands need to understand that they are not on the top of the chain of command. As the wife is under the husband, so is the husband under Christ. We need to look up for our direction & answers.
  2. We are given the responsibility to be spiritual leaders. Our wives need to experience us actually leading spiritually. This means four things:
    1. Regular times in God’s Word
    2. Faithfulness in prayer
    3. Regular church attendance
    4. Discussion of spiritual matters, followed by searching the scriptures for God’s answer.
  3. Our wives need to know that they are meeting vital needs in our lives that no one else can meet. (sharing our fears, goals, heart)
  4. Our wives need to know that we will listen to hear their heart. They need to know that we are making efforts to understand them.
    1. But honey, do you UNDERSTAND what I mean?
    2. Do you UNDERSTAND what I am trying to say?
    3. If our wives don’t think we will even try to understand them they will get discouraged, then lose hope, that leads to depression.

BEACH STORY

WE NEED EACH OTHER TO SUCCEED! (Genesis 2:18)

  1. Husbands: It is not good for man to be alone. (thought life, work, heart, dreams)
  2. Wife: I will make a helper